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About Laila Aitken Ali


Divorce Coach • Communication Strategist • Emotional Alchemist
Helping you rebuild your voice, your boundaries, and your peace.


What began as my own survival became a calling — to help others navigate the hardest transitions of their lives with strategy, calm, and self-trust.


My story began with a ten-year divorce that unraveled everything: my identity, my confidence, my sense of safety.
I was pregnant, heartbroken, and standing in the rubble of a life that no longer made sense.

I knew how to function, to plan, organize, hold it together, but I didn’t know how to feel safe in my own body again.

Every text from my ex sent my nervous system into overdrive.

Every decision felt loaded.
And the people around me, though loving and well-intentioned, couldn’t understand what it meant to look strong while silently falling apart inside.

So I learned.
I learned how to regulate my body, how to separate strategy from emotion, and how to rebuild a life rooted in peace instead of panic.
And once I did, I couldn’t help but teach it.

Now, with over a decade of experience supporting individuals and families through divorce and major life transitions, I’ve guided hundreds of clients toward emotional steadiness, confident communication, and clear decision-making.

As a Certified Divorce Coach®, Accredited Mediator, and Communication Strategist, my work blends lived experience with professional training — helping people not only navigate the practical side of divorce but also rebuild the relationship they have with themselves.


Why I Do This Work


Divorce isn’t just a legal process; it’s a full-body, full-life awakening.
It’s the moment you realize the old ways of surviving, people-pleasing, over-explaining, and walking on eggshells no longer work.
And yet, the world doesn’t hand you a roadmap for how to rebuild.

That’s where I come in.

I work with people who are navigating:

  • Divorce or separation that feels overwhelming
  • Communication with a toxic or high-conflict ex
  • Emotional fatigue from years of gaslighting or self-doubt
  • The confusion of co-parenting while trying to stay sane
  • The desire to start dating again without repeating old patterns

My clients are smart, capable, and self-aware,  but they’re tired of surviving on adrenaline.
They want peace, power, and emotional clarity.
They want to make decisions they trust.
They want to stop reacting and start leading themselves forward.


My Approach


I combine divorce strategy, communication coaching, and nervous system awareness because healing and decision-making don’t happen in isolation.


You’ll learn how to:

  • Communicate with calm, precision, and confidence (even with a difficult ex)
  • Identify and neutralize manipulative dynamics
  • Regulate your emotions before they spiral
  • Create boundaries that protect your peace
  • Rebuild your identity and self-trust — so you can live, love, and lead differently

This isn’t just “talk about it” coaching.
It’s practical, embodied, and deeply transformative.
You’ll walk away with scripts, tools, frameworks, and, most importantly, the ability to use them when it counts.


Start With a Master Call Here

Credentials (and the Human Behind Them)


  • Certified Divorce Coach®
  • CDC Amicable Divorce Coach®
  • CDC Holistic Amicable Divorce Coach®
  • Accredited Mediator | Certified Mediator
  • Co-Founder of Split.fyi — an education + support platform for divorce

But beyond the certifications, I’m someone who’s lived through the storm, and built a system to help others do the same.
My clients describe me as part strategist, part truth-teller, part calm in the chaos.

You won’t get fluff or platitudes here.
You’ll get honesty, tools that work, and unwavering support while you rebuild yourself.


You’re Not Starting Over — You’re Starting From Here.


Wherever you are in your process, considering divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding your life after,  this is where we start: with clarity, communication, and calm.

Because when you learn to lead yourself through the hard parts, nothing and no one can take your power again.



Start With a Master Call Here

ways to work together

Strategic Support Retainer

Divorce Bootcamp — 6-Month Intensive

Divorce Bootcamp — 6-Month Intensive

Your lifeline of clarity and calm during chaos.
Three private sessions per month + between-call text support for real-time guidance

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Divorce Bootcamp — 6-Month Intensive

Divorce Bootcamp — 6-Month Intensive

Divorce Bootcamp — 6-Month Intensive

Full access. Full transformation.
Personalized coaching, emotional regulation, and accountability to rebuild your foundation and reclaim your peace.

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4-Session Coaching Package

Divorce Bootcamp — 6-Month Intensive

4-Session Coaching Package

Focused transformation within 3 months.
We target key areas — communication, boundaries, co-parenting, or decision-making, and create immediate, tangible change.

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InnerAlchemy™ Circles

Kickstart Strategy Call

4-Session Coaching Package

A 3-month guided group experience for women rebuilding from the inside out.
Teaching, embodiment, and integration, all in a safe circle of support.

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Split.fyi Community

Kickstart Strategy Call

Kickstart Strategy Call

Your extended village for education and connection.
Work with professionals at weekly live events, professional Q&As, and a private support network through every stage of divorce.

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Kickstart Strategy Call

Kickstart Strategy Call

Kickstart Strategy Call

A focused 30-minute session to help you get unstuck and find your next steps.
We’ll cut through the overwhelm, clarify what matters most, and map an action plan.

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